One of the most important components of the work I do with couples leading up to their wedding is guiding them in a process of writing their relationship commitments, which we typically call “vows.” I see these commitments as an opportunity to really reflect on and solidify what matters to them – what they are truly committing to as a couple. And I always recommend that couples look at these commitments as something they can have as a foundation for their relationship and something that they can come back to anytime to check in on how they’re doing (I even have sessions with some couples around their one-year anniversary to check back in on how they’re doing).

As I continue to dance with what it means for me to be a minister in practice, I had a massive epiphany recently… I want to be more of a traditional minister than I realized.

At the same time, I’m not a traditional minister at all!

I share this epiphany and how I’m traditional and non-traditional in my first ever video!